Tuesday, July 1, 2014

3 Tips to Improve Your Mother Daughter Relationship

I found it interesting that when I searched on the internet about relationships, mother daughter relationship articles where at the top of the search.  After reading a few of the articles I was excited to find the authors were speaking my language.  Stop Fixing, Ask a Power Question, Not all Problems need to be shared with your kids.
1.       Stop Fixing – this is sometimes is hard because we also want to support those we love.  However fixing things robs your daughter of learning how to be independent of others.  What this teaches daughters is to find a partner who will fix them, which leads them to be codependent instead of independent in their relationships.

2.       Ask a Power Question – when someone comes to us with a problem we automatically assume they need our advice.  I find that more times than not they are wanting to talk about the problem first.  Instead of giving unwanted advice, ask them this question “If your friend was going through this problem what would you tell her to do?”  A majority of the time they will find their own answer to their problem.  This is the best gift a Mother can give a daughter, the gift of independent problem solving.

3.       Problems and Sharing – I have seen many Moms share their intense problems with their daughters.  This sets up a role reversal which is not healthy for either of you.  I believe we should share a problem and a solution.  If you have not yet gotten through to the solution, don’t share the ugly parts with your daughter.  Here are some ways to still share without going into details –

“I am going through a challenge right now and when I have a solution to this challenge I will share it with you”. This is also teaching her how to do this with her own children. 

One of my missions in life is to educate parents on how to communicate and have healthy relationships with their children.  As the parents do this the children learn how to thrive and have healthy relationships of their own.  I believe this is how the world evolves to a healthier way of living. 
Do you want to learn more?  I suggest this great book by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer
Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy ofToday's New Mother-Daughter Relationship

Sacred Cardinal Wheel of Life Journey

Sacred Cardinal Wheel of Life Journey

Welcome to Wheel of Life, a sacred and safe way to discover your unique energies. Each journey is designed to teach you about a virtue of the Divine while learning how to work with the energies in one’s daily life.
The Sacred Cardinal Journey

Here are some of the energies one will experience during the journey:

Heightened Passion in Your Life's Purpose
Clarity and Understanding of all Aspects of You
The ability to Stand Taller, be more Regal, and Stepping into Your Natural Confidence to Lead with Grace and Compassion. 
The ability to Give without loosing Yourself in the process. 
Connection to both the your emotions and actions to bring forth your Divine Power and Thrive.
The journey will reconnect you to your true self and enhance your connection to your true self by bringing your mind, soul, and spirit into a harmony and balance.  The journey assists us in moving forward in our life purpose, and healing the areas in our life which seems to repeat or keep us feeling stuck. 

What former travelers have said about their journey:
“I have noticed a deeper connection to my children and my husband”

“My son has opened up to me about his struggles and challenges”
“My boyfriend enjoyed the sacred home clearing assignments”

“Because of the group of soul travelers, I was able to face removing myself from a toxic work environment”
“I learned how to speak about how I truly felt and have authentic relationships”

“My relationship enhanced to deeper love with my spouse”
The journey consists of gathering five times every 6-8 weeks with a maximum of 8 travelers. This is a sacred journey and we connect with the energy of the group. Keeping the number of travelers to 8 allows us to truly honor the Divine energy working with us.  The group sets the next date for each gathering together. Each gathering is $75. As we work with the energy of the Divine, we set appointments with ourselves to gather in sacred space and honor the unique aspects of our being. Come join this sacred soul group and experience life in a new way!

Two journeys are forming July 19th at 3pm and July 27th at 3pm.  Virtual connection is available. 

Artist Jeni Willing

cardinal picture kindly provided by David J. Crotty. Thanks Dave!